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On those tube sites, every possible aspect of who we are is fetishized: If we have a fuller body, then we are in the 'big ass' category if we are older than 35, then we are 'MILFs' if we are black, then we are 'ebony.' This is one of the problems that we need to talk about, because in all other aspects of life, we don't let that happen. It's not that porn isn’t showing diversity, but it's the way it’s being shown. We lost the idea of actually seeing people have sex, which is really about connection, right?Į.L.: Yes, and sexuality.

The idea is that these documentaries will show you different ideas around sex, because I think that people - we have so many questions.ĪLLURE: In the past 10 years, mainstream pornography has lost the beauty of filmmaking and eroticism. Most of the XConfessions stories are fictional, but lately, I've been making films in which we get to know real couples and we get to see the kind of sex they have in their ordinary lives. It's just another kind of arousal than what we are used to. It's smutty, not erotic, and this film is obviously different from that.Į.L.: I definitely made this film with the intention to arouse, because that's what I do.

But, in our society, porn has all of these bad connotations most of us, when we close our eyes and think about porn, we see boobs and ass and the tube sites. Some define it as a film showing explicit sex. But no - later on in life, you can have other experiences with new people and evolve, sexually and as human beings.ĪLLURE: This film is part of your sex doc series, but do you also consider it porn?Į.L.: John and Annie don't consider it porn, but porn is difficult to define. When you see people of that age, you tend to assume that they've been together for a long time. She and John met five years ago, so they’re still a new couple, in a way. Also, I love that they both got turned on to this particular form of lovemaking later in life.Į.L.: Yes, after other people dying around them, even. So many of us have these anxieties about our bodies, and I think watching people onscreen who are strong in their sexuality and personality can help us find more confidence.ĪLLURE: We’re living longer lives than ever before, so watching John and Annie gives me hope that my sex life will be long, too. I need to make sure that we’re on the same side and that we have the same values. For me, it's a long process to find the right people. It's only about hard penetration.ĪLLURE: What have been the other hurdles to working with mature actors?Į.L.: The difficulty was finding the right people, but that's always the thing with casting. 'Four minutes! Bam! Bam! Bam! Go! Go! Go!' Through the lens of mainstream pornography, sex has become something so aggressive. It’s a powerful approach, especially in this world we live in, where everything is so fast and furious. When we stop doing that, we stop desiring each other, and we stop having this special relationship. It’s really about the importance, for a long-lasting couple, of touching each other every day. John and Annie’s concept of 'soul sex' is such a powerful message.

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I just wanted to make an honest movie showing two people and their wonderful relationship. ALLURE: It’s fetishized because the idea of older women, in this case, having sex is taboo?Į.L.: Exactly.

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